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It actually makes for a dangerous situation because God means for spiritual headship and leadership to be a more seamless handoff, not this disjointed affair that leaves the young woman spiritually and emotionally uncovered from age fifteen until her wedding day.
We’ve relegated dads to a last-minute interview before engagement when God meant for them to be active, available agents of wisdom and safekeeping. Foolish dads relish the gun-bearing, tough-guy role.
It isn’t until you completely detach that she will fully come into her own. I want to reconcile with her, but she won’t apologize to anyone and thinks she has done nothing wrong.
And in order to detach you will have to find a way to accept that your daughter may not ever become the version of an adult you insist she must be. You must first trust that you did your best as a parent, and then you must accept your adult children as they are. We think she might be bipolar, but again don’t know how to bring this up without upsetting her.
I believe he is a good person with a good heart — and lots of problems. She asks me to let her heal from this, and she continues to date him. I want to tell my daughter she is dragging around a ball and chain, enabling him, making the biggest mistake of her life, wasting her time, seemingly changing who she is in order to “help” him cope.
My goal was to uncover the reasons so many women make this mistake. It is too late, too embarrassing and/or too expensive to call off the wedding 5. It's often easier to break up with cheater or a liar (although far too many women don't do that when they should either!
If you're reading this, I'm guessing you know exactly the kind of tension I'm talking about!
It can be so painful and frustrating, and even if your daughter knows deep down that her mom is right (like I did), she often still needs to experience the relationship and its consequences herself before she'll admit it.
Last month I wrote an article for Huff Post Divorce about my research that revealed 30% of divorced women knew they were marrying the wrong guy on their wedding day.
This statistic triggered much consternation and denial.
If we understand why they stay in a relationship with the wrong guy, or go through with a doomed-from-the-start marriage, perhaps we can help them figure out what they are really searching for. He is a really nice guy; I don't want to hurt his feelings. ) But when it comes to nice guys, it can be hard to figure out why you aren't happy together.